之一：只有你能为自己的家庭负责[5月7日交托主权的家庭]

交托主权的家庭｜之一：只有你能为自己的家庭负责

5月7日

家庭信息

朱志山牧师

经文: 申8:1-20, 创35:1-5

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我们认定家庭的重要，但我们是否为我们的家庭负责呢？所谓“负责任”，指的是当人认识了真理之后，不给自己找借口，反而尽心、尽意、尽力的按所知道的来负责。往往，在谈到婚姻、家庭与养育儿女的事情，我们并非不知道神给我们的教导与吩咐，但因为我们缺少了责任心，我们很容易随意的按着自己的喜悦来活。这就如同许多信徒在找寻配偶时，虽知道信与不信不可同负一轭，我们却降低我们的水准，让自己受到无谓的试探，甚至是走到妥协的地步。有些夫妇因为亲看了彼此的生命，也轻看了自己帮补彼此的重要，婚姻久了之后渐渐冷淡。有的做父母的因为将孩子地上的成就看于比孩子的灵命更加重要，所以在养育他们时没有将爱主爱教会的优先程序教导孩子，之后便自食其果，看见孩子渐渐长大后不敬畏神，也不爱人的灵魂，自己也失去了做人的基本价值与道德观。其实，人有一个最丑陋的地方就是推卸自己当负的责任，然后发生了不理想的后果之后责怪人。一个丈夫若不好好的带领自己的家庭，他的家庭最终成为了像罗得的家庭，他怨不得谁。父母没有灌输属灵的价值给孩子，他长大之后生命里没有该有的属灵原则，被这残酷的世界冲击，既追求自己所喜爱的，也被自己所追求的伤害，那已经是不能挽回的时光了。其实，当我们听见神的话之后，我们绝对有责任的。神在《申6:1-4》嘱咐以色列时，清清楚楚告诉祂的百姓他们有责任要遵行神所吩咐教训他们的诫命、律例、典章，这样他们的日子才得以长久。确实，神的话语命定了我们的生死祸福，那不能成为我们随意参考或是看行不行得通来决定是否要听从的话语。神的话语本是绝对性，且是有永恒性的。所以当神说:「你要谨守遵行」,那是何等关键性与决定性的一句嘱咐。当神告诉我们要将神的教训记载心上，殷勤的教训儿女，我们千万不要马虎的听这样的话。我们绝不要满足于孩子现在成绩很好，品德兼优等。我们要问他们心里面有否神话语的价值。我们要检讨自己家庭的安稳和喜乐是否建立在我们都一起敬畏神。其实，「负责」是一个很简单，且是必要的字。唯有当我们要「负责」的时候，我们的灵才会谨慎，我们的心也才会收着现在所听见的神的话，细密的察验怎么将此活出来。从那时起，我们的心也向神坦然无惧，在带领我们的家庭时会专一的依靠主。但若我们一旦将责任推给人了，我们为家庭祷告的心就减少了。我们就减少注意配偶与儿女的心灵。我们就会忙于很多的事情，让光阴这样的流失，与家人的关系也渐渐冷淡。日子过去了，我们就会发现原来我们失去的最重要的东西就是一个以神为中心的家庭。因为失去了神为中心，家庭里应该拥有的恩爱、温情、原则、价值、喜乐等都一同是去掉了。若一个家庭有一个懂得为自己家庭负责的成员出现，这家庭不管落入怎样糟糕的光景，也会在此看见主的恩典临到。这且是我们在亚伯拉罕、以撒、雅各的家庭都看得见的事实。

We acknowledge the importance of family, but do we take up the responsibility for our own families? What “responsible” means is, when a person knows the Truth, he does not find excuse for himself but take up the responsibilities with all his hearts and minds and strengths based on what he has come to know. Often, talking about marriage, family, and raising children, it is not that we are unaware of the teachings and instructions given by God, but we lack a responsible heart and thus easily live as we please. Just like how many believers are seeking their spouses, although they know of unequal yokes between believers and unbelievers, yet we lower our standards and allow ourselves to be tempted unnecessarily, sometimes even coming to a compromise. Some couples have underestimated each others’ lives, and thus they underestimate the importance of helping one another; the marriage also grows cold over time. As parents, some value their children’s earthly achievements more than their spiritual lives, and they fail to instruct their kids the priorities of loving God and church as they raise them up. As a result, they suffer the consequences. They see their children not revering God as they grow up, neither do they love souls; they have also lost the basic values and morality of humanity. Actually, one of the ugliest areas in human is that they shirk their responsibility, and blame others when unexpected outcomes happen. If a husband does not lead his family well, his family will eventually become Lot’s family, and he only has himself to blame. If the parents do not impart the right spiritual values to the kids, they grow up lacking the spiritual principles they ought to have, thus being attacked by the cruel world. They pursue what they like, being hurt by what they like, and are no longer able to salvage what they have lost. Actually, after listening to the Word of God, we do have the responsibility. God instructed Israelites in <Deu 6:1-4>, and clearly told His people to take up the responsibility to obey the commands, decrees, and laws the Lord had directed, so that they may enjoy long life. Indeed, God’s words destined our death and life, curses and blessings; they cannot be mere words that we take as reference, and then determine for ourselves if we would like to obey. God’s Word is inherently absolute and eternal. Thus when God said, “be careful to obey”, this is utterly crucial and determinative instruction. When God told us to put His teachings in our hearts, be diligent in instructing our children, we should never be reckless in listening. We should never be satisfied with the current good achievements and excellent characters of our children. We ought to ask, do they value God’s Word in their hearts. We need to introspect if the stability and joy of our own families are established on collective reverence of God. Actually, [responsible] is a simple and necessary word. It is only when we take up the [responsibility] that our spirit becomes careful; our hearts will keep the word of the Lord and meticulously test and approve how they can be lived out. From that moment, our hearts will be bold and fearless before God, and we will be focused in relying the Lord as we lead our families. If we push the responsibilities to others, our interceding heart for the family will also reduce. We will also be less mindful of the spiritual condition of our spouse and children. We will be busy with many things and let the time to slip pass us, and our relationship with family will gradually turn cold. As time goes by, we will discover that actually, we have lost the most important thing, i.e a God-centered family. Because we have lost the centrality on God, the love, warmth, principles, values, joy etc that are supposed to exist in the family, are also lost. If a family has a member who knows how to be responsible for his own family, no matter how awful the situations in the family are, the Lord’s grace will surely come upon them through these. These are the realities we can see in Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob’s families.

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